Good Men Are Not Bad Habits

In a society like ours where women have been given the responsibility to make others but themselves happy, it is only fair that slowly and gently we begin to rewrite the rules that have been laid down for us as women and this can only be done when and if we have knowledge of what we should and should not accept as humans not just women.

You will agree with me that women are blamed for practically everything, especially in relationships. When a man hits a woman, she caused him to, when a child isn’t doing great, he is the mother's child, when a man is being irresponsible, it is the woman’s duty put him back on track, when a man cheats, his woman is probably not doing enough; else he would have no reason to cheat when a relationship isn’t working, the woman is given a thousand and one reasons why she should stay back and make sure it works as according to society, the woman is the one who keeps the home together. The woman is supposed to shrink herself and undermine her achievements just so her man can feel like a man. When a woman cheats, she is a slut, when a man cheats, it’s in his DNA.

when there is no peace in the home, society assumes the woman is troublesome .when a man hits her and she decides to leave, she is referred to as a disgrace to womanhood and blamed for the man's actions. A woman wants to go all out and achieve all she can achieve she is asked to be careful so men don’t run away from her, out of the fear of handling a strong and ambitious woman. When a girl is raped, she wanted it because she was dressed in a way society considers provocative.  A woman decides to speak up for herself and narrate her ordeal; society condemns her and tags her a “bad woman”, we have been heaped with so much responsibility that we sometimes forget to live.

Men on the other hand seem to get away with almost everything; after all “it is a man’s world” they want you to be an angel but they are not willing to create heaven for you. They want to be your king but unfortunately, they need a slave, not a queen (you know, someone they can trample on), they crave respect but are not willing to give it in return.

They do not mind how many times they put you down and talk you down as long as they feel good about themselves, the rest is history. Now hear me and hear me well, a good man is not a bad habit, a good man will not create situations in which you have to constantly question your decision to stay or move on, a good man brings out your good habits, a good man reminds you of all the good things he sees in you even when you do not see them in yourself.

 A good man will help and encourage you to be better and never give you reasons to feel inferior, a good man will never make you feel like an afterthought, a good man won’t make you feel like you are in the relationship alone, a good man will never cheat on you!  Yes, he won’t cheat because cheating means breaking a promise he made to someone he loves, a good man will never disrespect you or avoid important conversations.

Most importantly, a good man will NEVER abuse you. The day he beats you up, should be the last day he ever sets his eyes on you. Trust me, a thousand and one of you put together can never change him.