Do not think of him as clay you can mould into what you want.

I can change him, I will change him, when I do all he wants, he will come to love me and accept me. These statements have turned the lives of so many women around for the worse, more like they have become a shadow of themselves.

Dear woman, men are not clay you can mould into what you want. A lot of you are in toxic relationships while others have become wives to their boyfriends just because they feel doing all he wants will automatically change his attitude towards them or lead to marriage.

Please understand that men have minds of their own and will not be pressured into whatever they do not want to do so as a matter of fact, the moment he walked up to you he knew what he wanted and giving up yourself, likes and making him a priority will not make him end up with you. 

You can decide to grace his bed three times a day, do his laundry, cook the best meals, invest in his business, go clean for his mum every weekend, wash his brothers clothes and clean up after every member of his family, if he doesn’t want you, nothing will make him keep you. His mum and siblings love for you is not and will not be enough for him to marry you.

In the process of trying to mould him into someone you want him to be, he is molding you into someone you will barely recognize when he is finally done with you.