Dear Woman

I can change him, I will change him, when I do all he wants, he will come to love me and accept me. These statements have turned the lives of so many women around for the worse, more like they have become a shadow of themselves. Dear woman, men are not clay you can mould into what you want. A lot of you are in toxic relationships while others have become wives to their boyfriends just because they feel doing all he wants will automatically change his attitude towards them or lead to marriage. Please understand that men have minds of their own and will not be pressured into whatever they do not want to do so as a matter of fact, the moment he walked up to you he knew what he wanted and giving up yourself, likes and making him a priority will not make him end up with you.  You can decide to grace his bed three times a day, do his laundry, cook the best meals, invest in his business, go clean for his mum every weekend, wash his brothers clothes and clean up after every me

In a society like ours where women have been given the responsibility to make others but themselves happy, it is only fair that slowly and gently we begin to rewrite the rules that have been laid down for us as women and this can only be done when and if we have knowledge of what we should and should not accept as humans not just women. You will agree with me that women are blamed for practically everything, especially in relationships. When a man hits a woman, she caused him to, when a child isn’t doing great, he is the mother's child, when a man is being irresponsible, it is the woman’s duty put him back on track, when a man cheats, his woman is probably not doing enough; else he would have no reason to cheat when a relationship isn’t working, the woman is given a thousand and one reasons why she should stay back and make sure it works as according to society, the woman is the one who keeps the home together. The woman is supposed to shrink herself and undermine her ach